Do we Chicken Dance, Fan to "Its Raining Men" or Dance in a Circle to Gaga?

So now...here we are, that first wedding is past -- and the huge wave of  "let's do it now!" is over too.  There seems to be time to breath for a minute. That second wave of same sex couples in love are sitting at a kitchen table or maybe on a front porch, trying to make decisions about what, where and when their special day is going to be. Since the vote in New York State, i have been pondering the big question: What is a gay wedding like?   Do we copy the traditions of our parents?  Do two woman have separate wedding showers? Do we have two same-sex cake toppers or does a same-sex wedding cake make a statement in a different way.  Do both brides wear white? Is the stag party now visited by a reluctant Chippendale in a g string?  How does the couple share the first bite of cake? Separate sides for the bride and bride? Do we keep the drunken "Alley Cat" and "Chicken Dance?" We have all seen it done poorly, sometimes with lasting repercussions. As a clan who has only been allowed, until recently, to be merely observers of weddings... maybe we can make the whole thing new and beautiful in a different way. What do you think?